Any parent will tell you that having children changes your life forever, in ways big and small. Not only does becoming a parent change your goals and priorities, it affects even small, everyday tasks like taking a shower. While it can be overwhelming to some, it doesn’t have to change who you are as a person.You as a parent have mountains of wealth to transfer to them in a lifetime. 

Steps for Parents to bless their children – 

• Make them feel safe, secure and loved within the family unit, to develop rich relationships with both parents and their siblings too. Enable them to feel supported and encouraged to pursue their interests and talents. Help them to enjoy and gain pleasure from being with others and to have the ability to develop lasting friendships and relationships.

• While picturing a special future blessing of our children, basic steps for parents primarily begin with a meaningful touch. When speaking a blessing to your own child or an individual child you know well – place your hands on their head or shoulders or even consider holding their hands and look them in the eyes.

• When giving a blessing to all your children, encourage them to make eye contact with you while holding their arms out with open hands as if they were receiving a gift.

Today, words of love and acceptance are seldom received in many homes. Sometimes, parents assume that simply being present communicates the blessing. However, a blessing fulfils its purpose only when it is spoken verbally.

For a child in search of the blessing, silence communicates confusion. Children who are left to fill in the blanks when it comes to what their parents think about them will often feel insecure. Spoken or written words at least give the child an indication that they are worthy of some attention.

Within counselling, we see many adults interpret their parents’ silence in exactly that same way. Their parents may provide basic needs. However, without actual words, there is uncertainty of how much they are valued and accepted.