Once we understand that the act of forgiving does not compromise our moral standard by condoning the offence, we are in a position to forgive even the worst of sins. 

To forgive is not saying, “What you did is okay.” 

It is saying, “The consequences of your behaviour belong to God, not to me.” When we forgive, we transfer the person from our system of justice to God’s. To forgive is to recognize that the wrong done against us is a debt of sin, and all sin is against God. Therefore, in forgiving, we transfer the debt from our ledger of accounts to God’s, leaving all recompense in his hands.

It is NOT Restoring Trust in the Person.

 Trust is earned. It is something we give to those who deserve it. To blindly trust someone who has hurt us is naïve and irresponsible. If a person is a thief, it is foolish to give her a key to your house.. We can forgive people from the wrong they’ve done without extending to them an open invitation to do it again. It is foolish to trust an untrustworthy person.

It is NOT Agreeing to Reconcile. 

Forgiveness is a necessary step toward reconciliation, but reconciliation is not necessarily the goal of forgiveness. In fact, there are some situations when reconciliation is not a good idea. It is silly, if not dangerous, to press for reconciliation when the other person is unrepentant, unchanging, or unwilling.

 scripture Forgiveness  is NOT Doing the Person a Favour. I come to understand,in Judaism, forgiveness is not required unless repentance is demonstrated and pardon is sought. But Jesus raised the standard of forgiveness to a higher level. According to him, we are to forgive even those who remain unrepentant. Forgiveness benefits the giver at least as much as the receiver, so we extend it whether or not the person asks for it.

It is NOT Easy. 

Forgiving is difficult enough when it involves a one time transgression. It verges on the impossible when the offence is ongoing. Such circumstances require an attitude of forgiveness, not simply an act of forgiveness. When Peter asked Jesus how often he should forgive, Jesus gave an unsettling answer:

“I do not say to you (forgive them)seven times, but seventy-seven times.”