A person who is codependent will usually find no satisfaction or happiness in life outside of doing things for the other person, stay in the relationship even if they are aware that their partner does hurtful things, do anything to please and satisfy their enabler no matter what the expense is for  them. Other things include-

1. Each loses their identity.
2. Both are working against their conscience. The Victim of co- dependency refuses to work according to their own conscience.
3. Hard to have a healthy relationship.
4. The victim of Co-dependency displays very low self esteem.
5. Both the victims are indirectly seen controlling each other.
6. Jealousy among them.
7. Both are worried being neglected 
8. Live with false security.
9. Both never look outside for fellowship.
10. Both feel like they are tied in a knot.

Ourselves looking and checking at the mirror of codependency for any traces of this sin in us 

Checklist for codependency(questionnaire)- 

• Do you get confused about your love? Do you look for ways to be needed by others?
• Do you expend all your energy while helping others?
• Do you feel that you can’t say “No” Is it very hard to refuse?
• Do you find it hard to have a boundary for love?
• Hard to assess your feelings as well as hard to express.
• Are you depending on others to decide for you?
• Do you feel lonely, painful, empty, when you are alone?
• When you spend time with others, are you afraid?
• Are you always considering other’s decisions as good?
• Are you keeping silent to keep up the peace?
• Are you speaking on behalf of anyone whom you love?
• Do you feel that you got stuck in this relationship?
• Do you feel the other is manipulating you?
• Do you plan your life around this other person?

If it is ‘yes’ for more than 4 points  then you are codependent. It’s good that we have come to this point. If not, we haven;t lost much. A fresh start will always renew our hope instead of being enslaved. 

God says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. . ” (2 Corinthians 5:17)

You can change, and grow. The wasted times you can retrieve back. In the Scriptures we see that people thrived with a new beginning.